Keeping Your Relationship Healthy

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Our relationships have a huge influence on our lives. Positive, healthy relationships can supplement your life in a beautiful way. However, when you lose someone or suffer a heartbreak, you can lose focus and stray from the path that will lead you to a happier life.  Sometimes people feed their negative emotions and give in to what they feel. Instead of standing up and picking up the pieces, they prefer to dwell on misfortunes of the past instead of focusing on opportunities that lay ahead.

If you have a good relationship, it is always ideal to find ways to maintain its strength and keep your connection strong, so you can keep that person in your life. A healthy relationship requires mutual effort from both parties, so if you are with someone who is not willing to contribute to the success of the relationship, it may be time to reassess whether or not you should continue having them in your life.

Here are a few things you can do to help keep your relationship healthy and thriving:

  • It’s a mutual job. There are always two people involved in a relationship, which means that both parties need to do their part in order for the relationship to last. As they say, “It is always give and take.”
  • Change yourself and not your partner. Nobody can change you – only you can do that.  The same applies to your partner.  When you try to change someone, that person will tend to start feeling distant from you, which can result in arguing, frustration, and the desire to leave.  If you are seeking change, start within yourself.
  • No arguments can be solved without understanding. Yes, you may sometimes fight with each other, but that is because you are two different people, and conflicting opinions will inevitably emerge. However, in these instances, if you put understanding and respect on the frontline, you will be able to tone down your pride and see the situation clearly, so you can resolve it quickly and maturely and move on.
  • Create healthy compromises. There are certain situations that require compromise, and these compromises must be made by both parties, not just one. Compromises should not be deemed as a punishment, but rather a sacrifice to make things work better for all.
  • Set realistic expectations. Be honest and ask yourself if what you are expecting from your partner is realistic and fair. When expectations are not met, it leads to disappointment and sometimes even distrust.  It is important to have standards for what you will and will not accept, but just be careful to not set your partner up to fail.
  • Make yourself happy. Spend time with yourself and find ways to do what you want. A happier you will always produce the energy and ability to make others happy. Keep your interests alive and support each other.
  • Communicate. Be honest with what you feel. This will build trust in your relationship and make your connection stronger. Share your thoughts with each other rather than keeping them to yourselves.

Every relationship will go through a lot of hardships. But, with a strong connection and the willingness to make things healthier, your relationship will always pass through successfully.

-M. Germaine Parra
D.C. Area RealtorFeng Shui Consultant
Licensed in DC, MD and VA
Long and Foster Realtors
6862 Elm Street Office, McLean, VA  22101
Fax:   703-873-1901
Cell:  703.650.8838

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